Aug 12, 2014

Соништа

Learning Circles се вечери кога се собиреме со автентични и искрени луѓе и разговараме за некоја тема. Пред некоја вечер темата беше "соништа", па разговаравме различни теми и дојдовме до интересни сознанија. Во текот на вечерта, споделувавме соништа, разговаравме за значењето на сонот, различните аспекти од соништата, соништа пред важни животни моменти, читање на пораките од соништа, репетитивни соништа кои сме ги имале и значењето на истите во тоа време. Забелешки и размислувања кои ги запишав се следните:

Кога сонуваме влегуваме во нашиот подрум (подсвест) и разговараме со човечето кое го живее другиот свет. Другиот свет се сите оние саати кои човекот ги поминува кога спие. Човечето има некоја порака која сака да ни ја пренесе и многу е важно да ја запишеме емоцијата (чувството) на сонот во моментот на сонување за да можеме да ја разбереме пораката. Излезе интересно прашање, ако сонот е комуникација и пренесување порака, дали комуницираш и со оној кого го сонуваш? Дали му пренесуваш некоја порака? Тоа значи дека има сосем друг паралелен свет во кој комуницираме?

Го споделив мојот последен сон и сфатив дека сум во период на развивање на својата лична визија. Како што другарка ми рече, сум бил во фаза на освестување на своите потреби. Кои потреби имаш потреба да ги освестиш Тони? - ме праша. Дисциплина, сигурност и љубов - одговорив. Се подзамислив и сакав да разберам како овие потреби се поврзани со моите лични вредности, интегритет, семејство и различност. Па, логиката излезе вака. Дисциплината имплицира на одговорност, само-контрола, истрајност, односно интегритет. Сигурноста е поврзана со најблиските (семејството и пријателите) и имплицира стабилност и доверба. Њубовта е поврзана со различноста. Мое разбирање на љубовта е блиска на Ерих Фром (се разбираме со човекот), и во неа не спаѓа само еротската љубов, туку потребата за давање и придонес кон заедницата, браќата и сестрите, односно поврзување и придонес кон нешто поголемо од себе.

Потоа продолживме со споделuвање и отворање прашања и дојдовме до една мисла, која ја запишавме и вели: "Your past holds your future a hostage". До оваа констатација стигнавме разговарајќи за егото. Првин, се согласивме дека за терминот его може да се има различно разбирање. Моето разбирање за егото е според Стивен Кови и поделбата на его и дух. Егото го има пониските потреби, духот ги има повисоките потреби. Многумина го разбираат егото во контекст на Фројд, и тоа ид, его и суперего. Во секој случај, се согласивме дека кога зборуваме за ЕГО всушност мислиме на СУЕТА. Всушност, како што стануваме постари ни се зголемува суетата, а тоа главно поради искуството кое го имаме, ставовите кои ги зацврстуваме и нелагодното чуство некој да те убедува обратно. Стануваме ригидни на промени, нетрпеливи за вистинско слушање и затворени и осетливи при примање критика. Што поголема суета, толку повеќе минатото ни ја држи иднината како заложник. Не ни дава да се отвориме кон автентично живеење и прифаќање со искрено срце на промените (еволуцијата) која е неизбежна.

Наредна тема која произлезе од разговорите за соништата беше, дали очекување на еден балкански маж за жената е да биде послушна? И што значи тоа? По неколку минутна дебата, се заклучи дека послушноста е најтесно поврзана со тактичност, трпение и мудрост како очекувани квалитети кај балканската жена, за да може да го има своето рамноправно влијание. Факинг булшит - искоментира другарката. Јебига, Балканот е така кроен векови наназад и тоа се провлекува и ден денес, жената мора да знае во кои моменти да му дозволи на мажот да се почуствува "алфа" мажјак, и тактично да премолчи за да не ја направи премногу гласна дискусијата. Сепак ќе му докаже дека не е во право, со дела или во друга посмирена ситуација. Затоа, тактичност е важна. Одбери го правото време за пренесување на пораката. За жал, иако кај нас многу мажи, интелектуалци, со "модерни" сфаќања елоквентно зборуваат за демократски принципи и еднаквост кај мажите и жените, сепак во подсвеста уште доминираат предците од претходните генерации со нивните стравови и потреби и преовладуваат во секојдневното однесување на многу мажи во комуникација и очекувањата кон жените. Ќе бидат потребни многу генерации за свеста колективно да се смени и да еволуира во култура на еднаквост и почит.

Ете, до какви размислувања и заклучоци не доведоа соништата. Се надевам некои од речениците ви поттикнаа на размислување или ви дадоа друга перспектива. Бидете спремни на следниот разговор со подсвеста и размислете за тоа што има човечето да ви каже, ако ништо друго ќе ви даде интересна тема за разговор со самите себе или некој друг;)

Добра ноќ и sweet dreams:)
Т

Aug 22, 2010

We need a CHANGE!

Hello people,

It has been a while since I wrote, I was getting connected with Mother Nature and became passionate environmentalist meanwhile :) 2010 has been an incredible journey so far and I will share my experiences some other time.
In this post I want to reflect on our "human" behavior and the need of change that is evolving, as we continue to exercise our lifestyle. This post is inspired from an excellent book I read during my holidays in Croatia. "Hot, Flat, and Crowded" is an international bestseller written from Thomas Friedman, providing a holistic overview to the world issues focusing on achieving environmental sustainability.

Women love shopping! Men want "big" stuff!
We live in a consumption-based society where growth is driven by demand. The Government always pushes "economic growth" agenda, the companies are trying to convince us that we need their products, the media is constantly showing the fabulous lives of people that own a lot and have everything - from big houses, fast expensive cars, latest fashion brand clothes to exotic yacht parties. And what happens with us, the ordinary people? All this society forces create a mental picture of a lifestyle where we desire more and more of all kinds of "things" that we believe will make us happy.
The demand is here alright and with the over-population trend will definitely stay, but what happens with the supply side? Can Mother Earth provide all the natural resources needed for production of all those "things" we need? Are we are aware of the price we pay with our current demand-supply mindset?

The Millennium Ecosystem Assessment, first produced by the United Nations in 2005 with scientific analysis by 1,300 experts assessed the consequences of ecosystem-change for human well-being. The report concluded that the ability of the earth’s ecosystem to absorb human impacts is rapidly diminishing. Human activity is putting such strains on the natural functions of Earth that the ability of the planet’s Ecosystems to sustain future generations can no longer be taken for granted.
The World Wildlife Fund’s Living Planet 2008 report concluded that we were already operating 25 percent above the planet’s biological capacity to support life.
The Australian Paul Gilding, a former head of Greenpeace put it this way: We have been taking “a system operating past its capacity and driving it faster and harder. No matter how wonderful the system is, the laws of physics and biology still apply. And those laws are telling us that we, as a species, cannot continue on the growth path we are on. We need a new normal – one that is much more sustainable and healthy for the Market and Mother Nature."

Indeed, our "normal" has become too excessive and unsustainable. We have undermined the environment and its capacity to support the demanded economic growth. We have underpriced the true costs and the risk of what we were doing, we got used on "I'll be gone" behavior (when the bill comes due) and we have socialized the losses for private individuals to gain profits - argues Thomas Friedman in his book.
We definitely need to adopt a different, more sustainable mindset, if we want to survive as human species on Planet Earth. We owe this to the future generations. I like the quote: “Real wealth is something you can pass on in a way that others can enjoy”.

We all need to make money and afford all the things we believe will makes us happy, and we need to do that according the laws and structures of the society, but we should all become aware that the ENVIRONMENT is inevitable part of this growth circle. We all need to adopt the mindset of sustainable development because it provides a framework for humans to live and prosper in harmony with nature rather than... at nature's expense.

Ultimately, it comes down to the values that are shaping our behaviors, and when it comes to developing sustainable values it comes down to: integrity, transparency, honesty and shared responsibility.
"Sustainability" as a value is the opposite of "I'll be gone" mindset. Instead it says that I will behave as if I will always be here and always be held accountable for what took place when I was there.

I have clearly understood that finding personal meaning in life is finding an area that is connected to something larger then just yourself. What can be larger then devoting your life into making sure that your children and future generations have the same right of freedom and pursue of happiness as we have in our time?

Change is needed and it starts with the individual. I will finish this post with one of my favorite African quotes: "If you want to go quickly go alone, if you want to go far go together".

Let's go together...

Dec 31, 2009

as 2009 is passing by...

Hello there world!

Few hours left from 2009.. It has been a turbulent year definitely!
Important changes in my life that brought me back to Skopje! :) I feel truly happy that I am back home cause I can see the dots connecting and that makes me excited!

Sometimes you feel that you are not making the right choices (by taking the easier way) but in the end of the day all ends well.. Just believe that everything happens for a reason and just find another way, different way to get to your dream..

2010 will definitely be very exciting and I'll be back with my posts in a new style and a different layout! ;) Sharing is caring (sometimes scary!:) but I will do my best to share my reflections and experiences because every story is a beautiful story! And I believe it is becoming even more beautiful when everyone is involved in it!

Receive my best wishes from Skopje, don't drink too much and be safe! ;)
Talk to you next year!

Toni

May 26, 2009

Loud thinking

Hey people,

How have you been lately?
How do you feel?

I find the last question very interesting and honestly, sometime intense question to answer if you seriously give it a thought.
Today, I am grateful to be asked "how do I feel" from Cisco, my portugese friend and that made think deeper and write this post.

Hmm.. How do I feel? Well, lets see.

I am starting to realize that when you start thinking about money your worldview changes. The world is becoming a jungle where you need to survive, people just see other people out of interest and they do not truly mean the question "How are you?" when they ask. And the worst part is that you also get used to saying, "yeah, I feel great, thanks. Whay about you?!" but your answer comes automatically and you are also used to that answer. But, the truth is that we don't really feel like sharing and we are just closing and suppressing our deep feelings inside.

I started thinking about this, when I noticed that I haven't posted on my blog since March. Not having the NEED to share with the world, made me ask myself the question, am I scared from the world? Is MY WORLD CLOSING UP? and why is that?
I can find some reasons in the above paragraph..

Another thing which I realized how important it is, is to "enjoy the journey to the destination and not only reaching the destination, itself". I remember Dey's final speech on IC in Turkey 2007, talking about enjoying the beauty of the road while reaching the final destination.. I would add to that: "while working on your long term goals". Balancing between "momentary pleasures" and "gratification" is very important.

Well, all that is nice, but how am I?
Despite of fighting in the jungle and trying to survive in the cruel world, I can say I am doing fine.. I can always do better..

I am grateful for having a job that gives me a lot of "responsible freedom" as I call it. I am experiencing "intrapreneurship" and it's really cool. Learning by doing and observing a small company grows is amazing experience to have. All my gratitude to my boss, Halbe, who is true entrepreneur and gave me this opportunity.
Apart from that, I watch the NBA playoffs and read "Dreams from my father-Barrack Obama" in my free time. Not to forget that I spend most of my social time with Jirka and Mehmet, my Czech and Turkish friend :)
The future looks very exciting as well. Anyways, I wish you a good night and I'd be glad to hear from you soon.
What's up with your reflection lately?

T.

Jan 18, 2009

Value Driven Organizations!


One of my main work responsibility in the previous 3 months was preparing and facilitating the Strategic Meeting of my company, here in the Netherlands. As I described in one of my previous posts (post: "Strategic Planning Process"), it was a pleasure for me to read and learn about different Strategic Organizational Tools and to customize their approach in order to get the most out of our "SM". In the end, the approaches I chose to use, were: "Appreciative Inquiry" and "Value Driven Organizations".

You have probably heard about "Appreciative Inqiry" - organizational tool that is about search for the BEST in people, their organizations, and the relevant world around them. It affirms and builds on what is positive and strong about an organizational culture – what it gives LIFE. In its basic form, Appreciative Inquiry is a guided process for creating meaningful and transformational conversations; But in this post I want to write more about the approach of "Building a Value Driven Organizations". The author of the book, Richard Barret gave me this book on the "EBBF Annual Conference" on September 2007. He is also the author of the well known book "Liberating the Corporate Soul".
His approach is based on "whole system change" where he connects the development of an individual with the development of organizations.
"Whole-system change begins with a shift in the personal cosciousness of individuals and ends with a shift in the groups actions and behaviours. Organizations don't transform. People do!"
He starts with describing the 7 levels of Personal Consciousness (an extension of "Maslov hierarchy of needs") and goes into 7 level of Organizational Consciousness. Each level focuses on particular excistential need that is natural to the human condition. Indivudual and Organizations grow in consciousness by learning to master the satisfaction of these needs.
The 7 levels are the following:
Level 1: "Survival" - satisfying our physicial needs
Level 2: "Relationship" - feeling safe, respected and loved
Level 3: "Self-esteem" - feeling a sense of personal worth
Level 4: "Transformation" - finding freedom by letting go of our fears about survival, feeling loved and being respected by our peers.
Level 5: "Internal Cohesion" - finding personal meaning in existence
Level 6: "Making a difference" - making a positive difference in the world
Level 7: "Service" - leading a life of selfless service.

The "basic" needs (levels 1 to 3) focus on our personal self-interest or meeting the needs of the EGO. The "higher" needs (levels 5 to 7) focus on our spiritual needs or meeting the needs of the SOUL. The focus on "level 4" is transformation - a shift from self-interest to common good. This is where the ego learns to let go of its fears so that it can become ONE with the soul.
The fears of the EGO lead us to believe that we do not have enough of what we need. Consequently, we are never fully happy because we do not have enough money, love or respect. Individuals who focus exclusively on the satisfaction of the lower needs, tend to live self-centered, shallow lives. On the other hand, individuals that focus on satisfying exclusively on the satisfaction of the higher needs tend to lack the necessary skills to operate effectively in the physical world. Or with other words, "they are not grounded".
To be successful in the world we need to learn how to master the satisfaction of all our neefs so we can operate from full-spectrum consciousness. The successful mastery of each stage involves two steps: first, becoming AWARE of the emergent need and second, developing the skills that are necessary to satisfy the need. And this personal approach is translated into 7 levels of Organizational Consciousness.

One of my main goals of my company's Strategic Meeting was to bring "awareness" about "where are we now?", where do we want to go? (Appreciative Inquiry) and "what do we need to get there" (strategy).
The first 2 days were a great success, where we answered the first 2 questions and now this week comes the time for the third question, which will also determine my near future.. Well, let's see what will happen, I'll keep you updated in some of my next posts! :)
By the way, reading this book made me reflect about the level of personal consciousness I operate and made me aware about where should I improve..

From which levels of consciousness do you mostly operate?

anTONIo

Dec 14, 2008

Society and OUR Life!

We are born.. Our parents take care of us, they teach us what is right, what is wrong, we go to school, teachers reward us for studying hard, they punish us for not doing our home work. The society influences us by its voice of telling us what should and shouldn't we do. And for that we get certain rewards (it doesn't have to be in material form) or get punished.
The essence of socialization is to make people dependent on social controls, to have them respond predictably to rewards and punishments. And the most effective form of socialization is achieved when people identify so thoroughly with the social order that they no longer can imagine themselves breaking any of its rules.
Our experience as humans becomes externalized while we are being dragged from one corner of the street to another longing to become something that the "outside" world expects from us!
In a complex society, many powerful groups are involved in socializing, often pulling us to contradictory goals. On the one hand, official institutions like schools, banks, try to turn is into responsible citizens willing to work hard and save. On the other hand, we are constantly called from advertisers and manufacturers to spend our earnings on products that will produce most profit for them. Finally, the undergroung system of forbidden pleasures, run by drug dillers, gamblers, pimps (which is (in)directly linked with the official institutions) promises its own rewards - provided that we pay. The messages are very different, but their outcome is essentially the same: they make us dependent on a social system that exploits our energies for its own purposes.

IS THIS ALL THERE IS?

There is no question that to survive it is necessary to work for external goals and to postpone immediate gratifications. But a person does not have to be turned into a puppet dragged through life by social controls. My believe is that we should gradually become free of societal rewards and learn how to substitute with rewards that are under OUR powers, by developing set of our own goals. If a person learns to enjoy and find meaning in the ongoing stream of experiences, in the process of living itsels, the burden of social controls falls from our shoulders. Before all else, achieveing control over experience requires a drastic change in attitude in WHAT IS IMPORTANT and what is NOT?
When is the last time we have reflected on WHAT WE VALUE in life? Are the things that I am doing now connected with WHAT TRULY MATTERS to me?
Understanding "what we truly want" makes our lives much simpler and focused in our pursue of happiness and fulfillment.
As I had in my first post on September "So far..", I focus my attention into putting my efforts 3 areas: Career, Family and Friends. I believe, being successful in each area will get me closer to self-fullfilment and happiness..

Which are the area's you want to spend "your hours" of life?

anTONIo

Nov 3, 2008

Strategic Planning Process of my company!



I am excited to be part of a very interesting and critical moment of the development of my company.
We are launching a new product on the market (joepiedepoepie.nl) and we are doing very well with our current product (canvascompany.nl) Demand is getting higher for both products and it will increase even more in the upcoming months (Christmas period) Employees stay in same number, but more resources are needed.
CanvasCompany.nl is becoming the "CashCow" for our Star product "JoepiedePoepie.nl.
We are facing some internal challenges with our efficiency because of switch in priorities within the company. We need to standardize and improve our internal efficiency processes in alignment with our objectives! There is a need to create a strategic plan and understand what do we want to do and how are we going to do it!

I took the responsibility of creating the Strategic Planning Framework and facilitate the entire Strategic Process with the top management of the company.
We are going to start from "personal" assessment and building the team and continue with "organizational" assessment and creation of the Strategic Plan.
Before going into the whole process I involved two people to support us by performing an External Research and Structuring the Internal Processes. The Strategic Planning Process will most probably start on 5th January and will continue with 3 more meetings along the month.

All this is gonna be a lot of fun as I am interested in SME's development, seeing the challenges and supporting them in achieving their goals.
I wanna start reading a book on "Strategic Planning for SMEs", I still don't have anything concrete book in mind, so feel free to recommend me some and to share your opinion on this..

Thanks,
Toni